Yes, I know it goes against everything the baby books say, but I’m an attachment Mummy through and through, and having made the decision months ago to stop reading baby books due to all the contradictory advice, I’ve really just followed my instinct as to what is best for my little family unit.
My son, too, is an absolute comfort monster. He loves cuddles and feeding and being physically close. Which I adore. Feeding at night has always been something that felt very natural and symbiotic, and it has always helped him stay calm. Until recently.
For many reasons, I have just not been getting enough sleep of recent weeks (maybe months, I have lost count). And after months of trying to keep everyone in my life as happy as possible, I really haven’t been looking after myself properly. I’ve been getting by on minimum sleep, no exercise, and admittedly not the best food. I don’t feel healthy.
One of the reasons I am not getting enough sleep is because my son, whether it be teething, a growth spurt, or just an age related stage, is waking multiple times per night asking for milk. He sleeps between us *attachment parents, remember* and has got into the habit of rolling, and sitting up, climbing on me, and ultimately crying if he is not given boob. My husband will try to calm him frequently, but this more often than not leads to all-out tears and a wide-awake Mummy, Daddy, and baby. Not great. Because of this, I often just cave and give him boob so at least two out of three of us are sleeping (three guesses who is not!)
I tend to lose count of the number of times I wake in the night – I would say it was around 10 last night which is on the extreme end, but baby boy does have a cold and has been very distressed being unable to breathe through his nose. But after months of broken sleep, and the little voice in my head growing louder and louder saying “he does not need milk at night!” something inside me snapped, and I declared to my husband this morning that “I think I’m ready to night wean”.
So we agreed.
Where to start however, we haven’t got a clue. Do we gradually decrease the feeds by having my husband settle him for half of the waking’s (likely no sleep all-round), or do I move out of our room for a week or two and go cold turkey? I think we’re going to go with the latter *sob.
But now we’ve agreed, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I’m worried it’s going to cause a detachment from me and my boy, I’m worried my husband is going to be completely exhausted from all the settling, and I’m worried that my son will be thirsty in the night…maybe he does need milk!
But I’m also aware that we need to start the weaning process at some point, and this is a good place to start. I’m also highly aware that I need more sleep. Period. My son too needs more sleep – he wakes in the morning grumpy and tired after all the night waking. For us both to be able to wake in the morning feeling fresh and energetic would be a godsend and a massive positive in my son’s little active life.
So am I sad? Yes. Am I excited to have a full night’s sleep? Hell yes!
I will keep you updated with how things go, so watch this space. Also, if you have any words of wisdom, I would love to hear them. It would be great to know how you approached the weaning process and how successfully (or unsuccessfully) it went.
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